Is Blogging like Marriage? How it’s going so far…
Following on from ‘Intermission: Blogging Update 1′, I have now written 20 posts and what surprises me is that my word count is over 20,000 words. That’s about the amount of words of a small novella. If I continued at this rate for another 4 weeks, I could have well over 60,000 words – the normal size of a full book. People say they would love to write a book. Well, all you really have to do is write a blog for 6 months – a few articles weekly, and you would have enough material easily for a book. This was a quite surprising revelation for me. I am becoming aware that there is a lot of potential in blogging and that it should not be dismissed as inferior to ‘traditional’ journalism, magazine or newspaper writing. I wonder what will come next after blogging? And can I arrive early to the party next time instead of later?
Another thing is that I have written and released an article every day for 20 days. This in itself quite an accomplishment for me. This week, I read about the concept of the 30-day challenge, from a Ted talk – the idea of doing something you always wanted to add to your life for the next 30 days. I read about this from another’s bloggers’ site – InkBlots and IceBergs, a great site from a lady who was trying this. I had heard the idea before of doing 30 day trials. In Chinese Qigong, they have this idea of a 100 day gong. ‘Gong’ translates as ‘work’. You do a particular exercise for 100 days in a row without fail. But that can be quite difficult to complete and so I think the idea of doing a challenge for shorter periods makes sense. I did not set out writing this month with the intention of writing everyday for 30 days. I simply wanted to start creating content for my website. However I am quite close to achieving that goal so I will see if I can do it. But if I don’t, I’m fine either way.
I’m sure people struggle with time to sit down and write around their other commitments. I have a very small window of opportunity to write. At the moment I have exactly two moments. One is very early in the morning as soon as I wake up before my family does. The other time is usually last thing at night. But what I find is that all day, while I may be carrying on other activities, I will be thinking about what I am going to write. I may go over the same idea mentally several times. I am writing it in my head. Then when I sit down, it comes. I find it helpful to consistently think about it.
When I have certain challenges in life, I find that a way to help face them is to write. Writing helps lifts my mood and contributes towards creating a positive vibe about me. Difficult things happen in life. Its part of life. We can’t always control when bad things happen. But what we can control is our response to it. It may not be easy, but it is the only thing we have control over.
Of course, it is easy to say this. Most of us haven’t had a monks training like David Carradine in the Kung Fu series. It is not easy for us to approach all of life’s problems with Zen-like calm. For most of us, when bad things happen, we get thrown off. Thus it is with me. I’ve had times in the past when things were bad and I responded by feeling down, angry, depressed and self-blaming. However, I’ve driven down that road enough and I just don’t see the point of going back that way. It doesn’t help to respond to difficult times in this way. When the big things in life aren’t going well and you’ve getting defeats. Focus just on achieving the small things – winning the small victories. It will help your mood and your confidence. But also energetically, bit by bit, thing will change.
So instead I look for small things to give me pleasure and put all my energy into that instead. One of these things is exercise. The other is writing and working on this website. The website is something I had wanted to do for years but never had the time to do so. Well now I do. I’m not doing much exercise at the moment, so I need to get back into that. Instead I am mostly writing this blog. Perhaps, in some ways, this blog is like the ‘other woman’ or maybe its like a new bride. Just married. I am in the honeymoon phase of this blog. I am enjoying it. Making cups of tea for her in the morning. Going to the shop to buy chocolate just to keep my little darling happy.
Of course I know the monotony of married life may come, when the gloss fades, when you find yourself asking the other half in a nasally voice: “well what do you want to do today dear?” – knowing full well that you’ve done everything’. I’m trying to make a clumsy metaphor for when you don’t want to write anymore. Here are some Al Bundy quotes about marriage:
Peg, we’ve been married for 17 years. Can’t we just be friends?
“I don’t want to have to go to sleep after sex. I want to go to sleep after sex. I welcome the darkness.”
One of the things this blog reveals to me about myself is inhibitions. I am a very private person, even with close friends. Perhaps too closed. I think it’s an only child thing. So I think writing about my experiences and lessons and then putting it in the public domain helps make me a more open person. I still keep some privacy and never reveal anything about anyone else out of professionalism, respect and confidentiality. So everything is related to me alone.
Also I have barely written anything about Acupuncture or even Traditional Oriental Medicine. In fact I’ve probably written more about Al Bundy than I have Acupuncture. But it doesn’t bother me as I am happy talking about other topics for now. It all relates to life, and well-being anyway, so it’s all good. Also Married with Children was probably the funniest American Sitcom ever made. Personally I think more blogs should quote from this TV series. It would make the world a better place.
So going back, putting my energy into something creative is a great way of creating a positive vibe around you. It helps you to adapt to challenging situations and putting something out there with minimal expectations feels good. For me, it’s also a kind of experiment and I’m curious if it will open up new doors, new experiences and possibly new connections for me. That would be great, but there no expectations and it’s still early days.
So I should just enjoy the writing. There not much traffic but I’m quite happy with the little that I am getting. I will keep enjoying the honeymoon period and enjoy my bride before the boredom, the recrimination, the painful silences begin. To end, here’s another quote about marriage from the Vampire movie ‘From Dusk til Dawn’:
Vampire Female: “I’m not going to drain you completely. You’re going to turn for me. You’ll be my slave. You’ll live for me. You’ll eat the bugs because I order it. Why? Because I don’t think you’re worthy of human blood. You’ll feed on the blood of stray dogs. You’ll be my foot stool. And at my command, you’ll lick the dog shit from my boot heel. Since you’ll be my dog, your new name will be Spot. Welcome to Slavery!”
Seth: “No thanks. I’ve already had a wife”